'I ruined his wedding photos': Brother-in-law tries to get guy fired from his job, so he pettily refuses to conform to wedding dress code

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    Font - Posted by u/Franken Mower 4 hours ago My BIL tried to get me fired, so I "ruined" his wedding photos. n This actually happened about 4 years ago. At the time I was married to my now ex-wife. Her sister "Alice" was getting married to "Roger". But let's backtrack a bit so I can set the scene, it's a bit long but bear with me, friends
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    Font - I'd had a storied past with Roger and we did not care for each other in the least, to put it mildly. He was (is) a compulsive liar, mooch, and cheat; and had pretty much alienated Alice from most of her friends and family. He and I had a falling out over all this where I called him out on all his BS. In revenge, he said a lot of really horrible lies about me to the family and had done his best to try and get me fired from my job as well as some
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    Font - other things I can't discuss. Really evil sho As a result we had to pay a lawyer to send him a cease and desist letter and we went NC with either of them. I wouldn't even be in the same building with him, for any reason, including birthdays, Christmas, etc... After a few years, I was still NC with either of them (my wife would talk to her sister occasionally which didn't really bother me) but I came under a lot of pressure from my in-laws to normalize things somewhat. You know, for the "g
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    Font - A few months later they announce their engagement and begin planning the wedding. My wife was to be MOH and our kids (6 and 4) would be flower girl and ring bearer. Now, I was absolutely NOT in the wedding party (this you must understand) and I was perfectly ok with that. As the planning continues, I get word that Roger would like to "buy me a suit" as his way of making amends and so I wouldn't have to pack a suit of my own. I had plenty of suits so this was a
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    Font - really odd request but he comes from some money and said it was his way of trying to make amends for all the BS in the past. Whatever, fine, I'll go along. I sent my measurements over along with my son's for the wedding planner. The wedding was in a different state so I wouldn't be able to see the suit until we picked it up a day before the wedding. This concerned me along with his insistence that I wouldn't have to bring a suit so I packed my own suit as well - a nice charcoal grey 2 pie
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    Font - We fly into the state, check into our hotel, and I head to the haberdasher to pick up the suits along with my son and FIL (also not in the wedding party but also getting a suit). Turns out Roger hadn't bought us suits but had actually rented us the same cream colored tuxedos as his side of the wedding party. Basically trying to dress us up like the groomsmen despite not being in the wedding. I immediately saw why didn't want me to pack a suit and had a good laugh at it, but said nothing a
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    Font - hilarious and there we formulated our plan. The day of the wedding, everyone got dolled up in their wedding kits (champagne dresses and cream tuxedos) and me - in my charcoal grey suit. When Roger saw me, he was cordial but looked a bit irked. I found out through the grapevine he was absolutely livid I didn't wear the tux. Which, frankly, made my day. Now for the absolute best part, and cue the petty revenge: The pictures. Because I was "close"
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    Font - family, I was included in a lot of pictures by default but my wife, bless her heart, made a point of pulling me into almost every picture she was able to. When the pictures came back, it was amazing. In at least 60% of the pictures, I was in there somewhere and stood out like a sore thumb. 8-10 people all dressed the same in cream and white and me, in my almost black suit. Alice was so beyond pissed she had a near meltdown and insisted that everyone get together to re-take the pictures "t
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    Font - Blackout Meat Curtains cream colored tuxedo 196 224 +2.3 hr. ago FrankenMower OP +1.3 hr. ago My poor kid looked like a lawn jockey. Reply Share 76 Reply Share Blackout Meat Curtains +2. 3 hr. ago Imagine having such bad taste that you can make a cute kid look bad... Reply Share
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    Font - +3.3 hr. ago I can't put my finger on it, but something about this story seems a little off color. I can almost picture it.. baka-tari It's so funny reading your pre-wedding setup. It's just so obvious that he's trying to stage-manage the scene, and that he's brewing up a plan that - in his own mind - nobody will ever be able to figure out. "Too smart by half" as my dear grandmother would say. 592 Reply Share queenschmecca. 3 hr. ago My dear grandmother (dead now) used to say that too. I
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    Font - SocialGrenades +1.3 hr. ago So good! I was afraid you weren't going to bring a suit with you. Whew. Reply Share 219 FrankenMower OP +1.2 hr. ago It would be fair to say I am occasionally dumb. But I ain't stupid. 200 ●●● 31 Reply Share crystalsinwinter +2.2 hr. ago I was HOPING you would remember to take your own suit after everything he did to you!!!!! :) I am so happy for you that you are gone from that man's social circle. I hope, anyways. Reply Share
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    Font - Pristine_Parking5202 2 hr. ago I thought you were going to say it was some hideous purple velvet suit or something. Good thing you brought an extra, just in case. 65 Reply Share FrankenMower OP +1.2 hr. ago Now that I might have worn... Reply Share 57
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    Font - TehFuriousOne Man they sound like a real piece of work. I'm surprised they did try and sue you...lol 240 4 hr. ago . UberN00b719 Reply Share +3.3 hr. ago How could they? Roger took his own L from a gold plated platter the minute he insisted he buy OP a suit while knowing full well it's a rental. What's he gonna do? Sue for the rental cost? Aight, Roger. Here's the check for $125. 75 ↓ Reply Share ...
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    Font - ophaus +3.3 hr. ago You. I like you. Well done. 48 Reply Share FrankenMower OP +1.2 hr. ago Awww. I like you too 17 Reply Share
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    Font - 2 hr. ago The thing that strikes me is that Roger didn't just say "hey, we're going for a matching color scheme and are providing the suits". If he'd done that and OP pulled their move, they could've portrayed themselves the wounded party. zeidoktor What was the goal, exactly? Make the wedding party look bigger than it was? 428 Reply Share
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    Font - gothiclg +2.2 hr. ago Back when my parents got married there were arguments with my uncle over pictures. He was absolutely insistent on wearing sunglasses the entire time so the government couldn't come and get him. My dad has 1 picture of the man without the sunglasses because it got my dad off his back. This incident and many others lead me to believe he became mentally ill as a teen so this was normal by this point. If my family could avoid going bridezilla over sunglasses so could she
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    Font - Bup DoubtImpressive5855 1 hr. ago I was expecting he was going to do you dirty by giving you a clown suit. I was wrong, but in a different way. Reply Share 6 Franken Mower OP +1 1 hr. ago I mean it kinda was, it was a real.ugly tux. 4 2 Reply Share
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    Font - Ceecee_soup +1 3 hr. ago I get you guys had a bad history but I don't really get how trying to include you in coordinating with the family/bridal party was an insult to you, kind of seems like it was an olive branch that you purposely threw back in their faces... Idk maybe I'm missing something. Reply Share 100 baka-tari +3.3 hr. ago There's a world of difference between this: As the planning continues, I get word that Roger would like to "buy me a suit" as his way of making amends and so
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    Font - Turns out Roger hadn't bought us suits but had actually rented us the same cream colored tuxedos as his side of the wedding party It was a half-assed attempt to make it look like the family was "one big happy" without actually putting in the work to make that a reality. It's shitty Roger doing a bait and switch. "Rent a tuxedo" # "Buy a suit". Even OP's then-wife could see what Roger was up to. 123 Reply Share LadybugGal95 3 hr. ago And if Roger had just been honest and said, we'd like yo
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    Font - kongtomorrow. 1 hr. ago I don't really get this. Why would it be bad for you if you wore the tux? It's a little confusing, but if anything it seems nice of him to want to include you? Why did you go out of your way to ruin it? 2 Reply Share skylar274 • 43 min. ago i'm also confused. I'm assuming it was bad intentioned, but i don't understand the gain from roger Reply Share ... 0 Puzzled_End8664 +1 38 min. ago Roger was doing it all for his own selfish reasons, not as an olive branch. He d

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